Our sessions
We provide a seven-day a week online community that offers three types of sessions. as well as some face to face sessions hosted with our partners.
All of our sessions provide the same safe space to share, talk and listen. We suggest trying each type, so you can find the one that’s right for you.
Interested in attending Frazzled in-person?
We run friendly one-hour Frazzled sessions delivered by specially trained Frazzled Facilitators in Harpenden, Wimborne and Merseyside.
Wondering what to expect from a Frazzled session?
Frazzled sessions run for an hour, always beginning with a run-through of our guidelines to ensure a confidential, respectful and safe environment for all attendees.
Each meeting opens and closes with a short mindfulness exercise, as Ruby finds it helps to calm our systems and be fully present in the session. Don't worry if you've never tried mindfulness before, but remember your participation in these exercises is completely optional.
Then the floor is opened to whoever wants to share how they’re feeling, or as Ruby says 'explain the weather conditions in your head'. Again, speaking in this is optional and you are very welcome to just sit and listen if this feels more comfortable.
Attendees usually speak for 1-2 minutes to ensure there's time for everyone who wants to speak. In all meetings we expect some silences and those are perfectly normal.
The Facilitator's role is to ensure everyone that wants to speak has a chance to, that topics are appropriate and attendees are both present and respectful of the space and one another. Questions to one another are avoided, the Facilitator will manage this.
After the closing mindfulness exercise, we recommend attendees take a few minutes to reflect and decompress before returning to the rest of their day.
Session guidelines
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To act with integrity. Please respect one another’s confidentiality and anonymity. Please do not name anyone or discuss anything you may hear in a meeting with others who have not attended.
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To let everyone have a voice. Please respect one another by giving everybody the chance to contribute without interruption and by not dominating or disrupting the conversation. The facilitator may show a white card after 3 minutes to signal the end of a speaker’s turn.
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To listen without offering solutions. Please focus your contribution on personal experiences and not political/thematic concepts. When speaking please focus on what resonates with you personally, not on providing answers or solutions to others.
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To be kind to ourselves and each other. This is NOT group therapy and no-one should feel under pressure to say anything. We do hope that in hearing others’ experiences you will feel encouraged to share your own. Whether you speak or not, please treat each other in a supportive and considerate way.
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To welcome people from all backgrounds and points of view. We have no religious, political or commercial affiliations and ask that participants refrain from promoting any that they might have.
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To be present. To benefit fully from the session and stay present in the room, please try to avoid distractions from phones or other devices.
FAQs
You can register for a meeting via this link or via the ‘book a Frazzled Cafe meeting’ button on our homepage.
We are very excited to confirm our partnership with Harpenden Trust to provide face-to-face Frazzled Cafe sessions for residents of Harpenden / AL5 postcode only, Merseyside and Wimborne commencing from January 31st, 2022.
About The Wellbeing Hub
The Trust has partnered with MIND in Mid Herts and the local PCN (the Primary Care Network of our 3 GP surgeries) to create a Wellbeing Hub. Its aim is to support Harpenden residents who have concerns about their mental wellbeing at an early stage before they become unwell and need counselling or cognitive behavioural therapy.
The Trust is contributing funding and volunteers to the Hub, helping to connect people with existing groups and activities; funding a MIND outreach project in Harpenden and researching ‘gold standard’ initiatives that might be of benefit to our town’s wellbeing. An in-person Frazzled cafe will be a fantastic addition to our town and will run at Thompson’s Cafe in the center of town.
We have fully trained local facilitators to the high Frazzled Cafe standards of our online meetings. There is limited availability for spaces which can be booked following the booking page link below.
https://bookwhen.com/harpendentrustxfrazzledcafe
Frazzled Facilitated meetings run for an hour and start
with a run-through of our guidelines. This is to ensure confidentiality is
respected and that there is safe environment for those that would like to
share.
Each meeting opens and closes with a short mindfulness exercise. You don’t
need to ever have tried mindfulness before, and your participation in
these exercises is completely optional.
After the mindfulness exercise, if you would like to speak, all attendees
can unmute themselves and talk about how they are feeling, or to borrow
one of Ruby’s expressions, ‘explain what the weather conditions are like
in your head’.
Attendees usually speak for 1-2 minutes to ensure everyone that would like
to has the opportunity to speak. You can of course speak more than once.
Speaking is optional. If you would just like to listen, that is perfectly
OK. In all meetings, and in between people speaking, we expect some
silences and those are normal.
The Facilitator’s role is to ensure everyone that would like to speak gets
a chance to, that the topics of conversation are appropriate for the space
and that attendees are both present and respectful of the space and one
another.
After the closing mindfulness exercise and the end of the meeting, we
recommend attendees take a few minutes to reflect and decompress before
returning to their usual routine.
Yes – but not too much!
We open in the same way with the host welcoming everyone, running through the meeting settings and
guidelines, popping a short poll onto your screen and introducing Ruby who leads the mindfulness
exercise, bringing everyone together.
Ruby then opens the floor to anyone who would like to share – letting the group know about the
‘weather conditions in their head’. The host will call upon those with their virtual hands up that
would like to speak (we cannot guarantee everyone will be called upon, but we do our best to get
through as many as we can in the time we have).
After a few people have shared, we then breakout into smaller groups, still in Zoom. Here you’ll
have the opportunity to talk in a smaller group with up to 8 people.
After around 15 minutes we re-group into the main room and reopen the floor for anyone that would
like to share. To end, we close the meeting with Ruby leading her mindfulness exercise and a second
poll to get some feedback and helpful information.
You are welcome to book one Facilitator meeting per day, plus the Frazzled Cafe meeting with Ruby Wax on days that she runs them. Please do not try to book into more than one meeting a day (aside from the Ruby meeting). This is to make sure that as many people as possible can access our meetings as and when they need them. It is also so that you have time to properly decompress after each meeting.
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